There are days when the weight of deadlines, bills, errands, emotions just pile up until it feels impossible to breathe.
I had one of those days recently.
I found myself having a full-blown meltdown to my husband about everything that needed to be done and paid for. It wasn’t even one big thing; it was the accumulation of a hundred small worries that had built up over the week.
I could sense he was getting a bit irritated, but instead of snapping, he paused and asked me gently, “What have you been doing to manage this anxiety?”
That question stopped me. I realized that I hadn’t been doing much lately. I was just pushing through and trying to hold it all together. Then I remembered something I’d learned from a publishing client of mine, an entrepreneur who runs an online crystal store and had written a book about manifesting abundance, which included chapters about emotional release techniques like tapping.
I’d tried it before, but that day, I decided to try it again. I focused on the thoughts racing through my head and followed a simple tapping for anxiety exercise. Within minutes, the intensity of what felt like a 10 out of 10 panic dropped to a 3. I could finally exhale.
And I thought, “If this helped me, maybe it could help someone else too.”
What is tapping therapy and how does it work?
Tapping, also known as EFT (Emotional Freedom Technique), is a simple self-soothing method that combines touch and talk.
You use your fingertips to gently tap specific meridian points on your face and upper body while saying phrases that acknowledge how you feel.
It’s kind of like acupuncture, but without needles. The idea is that by stimulating these points, you help calm your nervous system and tell your body it’s safe again. Studies show that EFT tapping can reduce cortisol levels (that stress hormone that floods your body during anxiety) and help regulate your emotions.
You don’t need fancy tools or a quiet meditation space. All you need are your hands, your voice, and a few minutes of your time.
Why busy women and moms need this calming tool
Because, like most women I know, you’re doing all the things: working, managing a home, caring for kids or parents, juggling all the invisible responsibilities. This means you rarely get to pause long enough to even name what you’re feeling.
That’s why I love tapping for stress relief. It forces you to slow down and acknowledge your emotions without judgment. You don’t have to “fix” anything; you just speak your truth while you tap.
It’s grounding. And when you release the tension that’s been sitting in your chest or your stomach, you free up the energy you need to handle life again.
The best part for me is that you can do it in less than five minutes. (I’ve literally done it while I’m on my desk, in between Zoom meetings.)
A simple tapping exercise for when you feel overwhelmed at home
Here’s a basic guide you can try right now. It’s a version of the classic EFT tapping technique, but this one focuses on that heavy “too much to do, too little time” kind of stress.
Identify what’s bothering you.
Be specific: “I’m overwhelmed by everything at home—bills, chores, work, expectations.”Rate your intensity.
From 0 to 10, how strong is this feeling? (For me that night, it was a 10.)Start with a setup phrase.
While tapping on the side of your hand (the karate-chop point), say:“Even though I feel completely overwhelmed by everything I have to do at home, I deeply and completely accept how I feel.”
Repeat this 2–3 times.Tap through the main points.
Move through each point while saying what comes up for you:Top of head: “There’s just too much to do.”
Eyebrow: “I don’t know where to start.”
Side of eye: “I’m so tired of keeping it all together.”
Under eye: “I feel the pressure in my chest.”
Under nose: “I wish I could just stop for a bit.”
Chin: “But I can’t, because everything depends on me.”
Collarbone: “It’s okay to feel this.”
Under arm: “Maybe I don’t have to carry all of this alone.”
Top of head again: “I’m safe now, and I can start to let this go.”
Take a deep breath.
Notice how your body feels. Rate the intensity again.
If it’s still high, keep tapping until you feel lighter.
Even just one round of this can help you shift from spiralling thoughts to a calmer, more grounded state.
When and where to use tapping in daily life
The beauty of tapping therapy is that you can do it anywhere. You can tap:
Before a stressful meeting or client call.
When your child’s tantrum is testing your patience.
When bills pile up and you feel financial panic creeping in.
When you’re trying to sleep but your brain won’t shut up.
Tapping for anxiety doesn’t need to be a full ritual. It’s a quick reset button you can reach for whenever your body starts going into overdrive.
How tapping helps you feel more at home in yourself
For me, tapping has become a reminder that calm won’t come if you just wait for it. Calm, instead, is something you create.
When I feel grounded, I make better decisions about how I use my space and time. I notice what’s around me again: the scent of my coffee, the softness of the sofa, the quiet hum of the air-con. Suddenly, my home feels more like a refuge and less like another item on my to-do list.
That’s the ripple effect of self-care practices like this. When your inner home feels lighter, your physical home follows suit.
Creating calm at home and within
If you’ve been feeling stretched thin lately, maybe try tapping tonight. Two minutes, one quiet corner, and your honest words. See what happens.
If you want to explore more ways to create calm and clarity at home, browse through the Self and Well-Being section on the blog. It’s where I share simple, realistic ways to care for your space and yourself. Or, if your home itself has been adding to your stress, you can also check out our Online Design Consult service to help you find practical solutions that make your space feel lighter, calmer, and more aligned with how you want to live.
Because sometimes, the smallest tools can help us find the calm we’ve been craving all along.
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